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Lately things have been stressful at home, with my husband now out of work and here in the house all the time it gets kind of nerve racking.  He talks alot about things he is going to do or needs to get done and then sits here in the office and doesn’t accomplish much other than talking.. 

We closed in our garage a couple years back a made 2 offices spaces with a wall dividing the offices so that we wouldn’t be in each others faces all the time. But then my husband moved his office furniture from our commercial space to the house and moved it to the larger open area of the office and made that his office and now sits right where we can see one another and hear one another, and its like it defeated the idea of seperate office spaces.  So, he lost his job a couple weeks ago now and he is here sharing the office with me and it gets quite annoying at times as I am working and trying to concentrate on work and he just likes to talk alot.   I mean it seems he can’t stay focused on his own tasks he needs to complete and it drives me crazy.

Also, you can forget him getting any work done when either one of his ex-coworkers calls him or he calls them, they get on this rant about the job and talk for hours about something that cannot be changed.  I mean lets focus on the future and make something happen here as we have alot of bills to pay and I don’t have time for him to wallow in self pitty over his job loss when there is absolutely nothing we can do about it but move forward.  I mean I am looking to the future to figuring out how to survive and make money and keep my bills paid and the roof over my head.

I love him but, he has a hard time staying focused and it drives me nuts. We can be eating or something and boom out of no where, he will begin talking to me like we were in the middle of a conversation and I will have no idea what the heck he is rambling on about. Then as soon as I figure out what he’s talking about, he is already on to a new subject having nothing to do with the conversation he was speaking of 2 seconds earlier, I mean its mind boggling at times.

I work from home as an appraiser (broke as hell), and I also bid on government contract with HUD for inspections and I contract work and I run our business for local home inspections and appraisals.  Let me just be honest for a minute business has really just sucked since the crap hit the fan in the summer of 2007 for our industry.  So, with that said I don’t make tons of money, I mean I make some but not nearly enough to support our household without my husbands income as well and with his job loss we can’t afford the health insurance which really sucks, as I have several medical problems and my daughter has  2 holes in her heart that have to be monitored, so it sucks losing my health care.

With all that said my point is I work from home, so I am on the computer or the phone etc. and with my husband here it seems he gets distracted easily and then it distracts me as i can see him and hear him at all times.  I think I am just frustrated that he talks about all these things he is  going to get done or needs to do and then doesn’t do them and it makes me crazy.  He would act like I am not contributing to our household because I work from home and make my money here in the house, and I have to remind him that before he took his office job a couple years ago he also worked from home with me for about 7 yrs and as manager of the company, I contribute, as his wife I contribute, as mom to our daughter I contribute, as the person responsible for the house, cooking, laundry, dogs, fish, pool, etc..I CONTRIBUTE every single day of my life to my household.

To many times men don’t realize how much we contribute to our households, whether it be financially or through other things we contribute.  But I have never not worked and just sat on my ass at home, I work all the time.  Like I said before right now the money isn’t that great but it comes and goes as the contracts I have come and go and as the real estate industry goes through its changes so does my money, but I contribute..

Hopefully now that he is back at home out of the corporate world and back to doing our company he will realize how much I contribute and how much work it takes and descipline it takes to work from home and stay motivated and make your own income.  I am always pushing forward looking for a better tomorrow and praying for a brighter day as I will not let the struggles I face today bring me down.

Well, with all that said my daughter Taylor started second grade this week and some how has managed to break 2 water bottles in 3 days, I give up..I told her to pull out the one she used last year and use that one as it lasted all year with no problems.  She is loving school and glad to be back with her freinds, hopefully she can stay there through the school year as it is a private school and with the loss of my husbands income things may have to change there but since it is such a wonderful school and we know she is getting a good education we will do our best to keep her there. Our children our the future so we have to do our best to provide them the best pathe possible.

Som this is whats been going on in my house this week..what the hecks going on in yours?

Wow, it seems like my daughter was just a toddler and now she is in 2nd grade, for some reason I keep thinking she is going to 1st grade but, no it’s 2nd grade.  I am not sure if its turning 7 yrs old or what but over the summer she has become very independent, before she would only take bathes and she has long curly hair so I always had to shampoo, condition and comb out the tangles. But in the last few weeks she has started taking showers, and then she started shampooing, conditioning and combing and styling her own hair.  

Now, she has decided she wants pop tarts and she wants to make them herself, and she talks to me like she is a teenager and not 7yrs old.  Even her older step sister said she couldn’t believe how much she changed in the 3  weeks since she last saw her.  She says things that just seem so grown up for her age, nothing bad just more mature or educated than I expected from my 7yr old. 

Today was her first day of school and beginning 2nd grade, and she got up told me how she wanted her hair to be, told me that she was going to have pop tarts and I wanted to make her different healthier breakfast but she wanted to do her own thing, so I allowed it.   She ended some how breaking her water bottle on the first day of school, it was one of the nicer hard plastic bottles and I guess she either dropped it or dropped her book bag when it was clipped to it and broke it, so I was not so happy about that but I took her to get a new one.  When we get to the store, I buy her a totally different water bottle that is the softer plastic that shouldn’t break as the other one did and she was like “NO ONE ELSE HAS A BOTTLE LIKE THAT’,  I was like so what you broke the expensive one on the first day and so this is what you get.

It just seems like our kids at earlier ages are so concerned with what everyone else thinks or has, but right now my husband just lost his job and I am not wallowing in cash, so we will have to do with what he have or can afford.  I am not one of those moms that thinks my daughter has to have all the most expensive brands, I didn’t grow up that way and i am not going to buy a pair of shoes over paying a utility bill at home right now. 

But anyways its just amazing how fast she has grown to 7yrs old, it just seems like the years have flown by and she is getting bigger, smarter, and more independent each day..Pretty soon she will be a teenager and hate my guts, so I have to try and enjoy what time we can get together before those dreaded years come along.. Thank goodness we are only disagreeing on a water bottle today, because soon it will be boys that we will be disagreeing on..Cherish the moments with you kids as they grow up so fast, I spent this summer with my daughter home with me and I made sure we had our special hang out days each week because I want to have those memories together and I want her to think her mom is a little cool, even though I am probably not..I still hope she looks at me, and thinks “my mom is the best’.

I loved having her home with me this summer BUT thank goodness 2nd grade is here to give me a break !! 

Til next time!!

Last Friday my husband lost his job, and so now we are both kind of out of work and so its rather stressful time in my house right now, thats why I haven’t posted anything in a while. I have just been bogged down with things that I need to get done and having my husband here each day is kind of stressful and he talks and wonders around and all he talks about is his job, etc.

I am glad we have some money set aside in savings, not enough to last for long but at least I know I am not without any money.  Here it is back to school time and I hadn’t done any school shopping yet and so we have decided that there will be no new school clothes right now, we will wait and see how things go and then purchase little at a time as right now paying our bills is more important that my daughter having a new t-shirt and jeans on the first day of school.  She has plent y of good clothes so she won’t be disgraced and she is only 7yrs old so its not like a major deal to her, she doesn’t really even think about it.  The only thing she really wanted was a new book bag, water bottle and lunch case, so I did buy those items for her and so she is happy with that for now.

Right now I am wishing we had about 6 months of savings but we don’t so all we can do is push forward. Thank goodness we own our own business but we are in real estate and so as everyone knows business has been slow but things right now are picking up so we still have that income coming in and I also bid on government contracts and so I hope to get a couple lined up and if so we should be fine. I can’t imagine how so many people theirs jobs and have no savings set aside and have no other income to fall back on as we do, even though I know what we have it is still scary so I know other people with less than we have must be so stressed out and I just say we have to all pray and stay positive and something good will happen.

If you decided to give up or let yourself get to down and depressed than you will not accomplish much if anything, so it is important to look at this as just another struggle we have to face and to push forward and look at any and all options that come your way and also considered making things happen for yourself.  What I mean when I say make something happen for yourself is that we are so dependant on large companies to give us a job but once you get that job you put all your dependence on that job, the paycheck, etc.. If you have a passion, a hobby or interest in trying your own business than give it a shot, its harder to work for yourself than anyone but you will push harder to make the money and will appreciate what you have much more and then only you control how much you make, when you work, and when you vacation.  Of course not everyone is like me and my husband and aren’t wanting to work for yourself but like my husband jus lost his job, I also was in the corporate world as he was and about 10yrs ago out of the blue I was laid off and it was such a shock to me when it happened that I chose to work for myself and I have every since then and my husband only went to work with the other company when the industy we are in got hit and we didn’t have enough business to pay all our bills.  So, now yes we are stressed over the situation but all we can do now is pray, stay positive and push forward.  No matter what gets thrown at you always remember you can get through it, as long as you don’t give up on yourself you can make it through anything that comes your way.

I would love to hear from anyone facing the same issues of job loss in your family and how it has affected you and what your doing to try and move forward..til next time!