Last Friday my husband lost his job, and so now we are both kind of out of work and so its rather stressful time in my house right now, thats why I haven’t posted anything in a while. I have just been bogged down with things that I need to get done and having my husband here each day is kind of stressful and he talks and wonders around and all he talks about is his job, etc.

I am glad we have some money set aside in savings, not enough to last for long but at least I know I am not without any money.  Here it is back to school time and I hadn’t done any school shopping yet and so we have decided that there will be no new school clothes right now, we will wait and see how things go and then purchase little at a time as right now paying our bills is more important that my daughter having a new t-shirt and jeans on the first day of school.  She has plent y of good clothes so she won’t be disgraced and she is only 7yrs old so its not like a major deal to her, she doesn’t really even think about it.  The only thing she really wanted was a new book bag, water bottle and lunch case, so I did buy those items for her and so she is happy with that for now.

Right now I am wishing we had about 6 months of savings but we don’t so all we can do is push forward. Thank goodness we own our own business but we are in real estate and so as everyone knows business has been slow but things right now are picking up so we still have that income coming in and I also bid on government contracts and so I hope to get a couple lined up and if so we should be fine. I can’t imagine how so many people theirs jobs and have no savings set aside and have no other income to fall back on as we do, even though I know what we have it is still scary so I know other people with less than we have must be so stressed out and I just say we have to all pray and stay positive and something good will happen.

If you decided to give up or let yourself get to down and depressed than you will not accomplish much if anything, so it is important to look at this as just another struggle we have to face and to push forward and look at any and all options that come your way and also considered making things happen for yourself.  What I mean when I say make something happen for yourself is that we are so dependant on large companies to give us a job but once you get that job you put all your dependence on that job, the paycheck, etc.. If you have a passion, a hobby or interest in trying your own business than give it a shot, its harder to work for yourself than anyone but you will push harder to make the money and will appreciate what you have much more and then only you control how much you make, when you work, and when you vacation.  Of course not everyone is like me and my husband and aren’t wanting to work for yourself but like my husband jus lost his job, I also was in the corporate world as he was and about 10yrs ago out of the blue I was laid off and it was such a shock to me when it happened that I chose to work for myself and I have every since then and my husband only went to work with the other company when the industy we are in got hit and we didn’t have enough business to pay all our bills.  So, now yes we are stressed over the situation but all we can do now is pray, stay positive and push forward.  No matter what gets thrown at you always remember you can get through it, as long as you don’t give up on yourself you can make it through anything that comes your way.

I would love to hear from anyone facing the same issues of job loss in your family and how it has affected you and what your doing to try and move forward..til next time!

I have had a challenging week, no air in the house for 4 days, my daughter wanting to go, go, all the time.. I think she doesn’t realize that I actually do have to work sometimes.  Business has been slow for me this summer so I have been able to dedicate alot of my time to my daughter, spending time at the pool, going to the gym or going to the water park,etc.. But the last couple weeks I have had some appraisal business and so I have had to buckle down and work, work, work…

Well, for Taylor she just doesn’t get that she thinks mommy is supposed to be free to play and hang out all the time.  So, yesterday I took a break from working and we invited our neighbor and her kids to come over and spend the day at the pool and that was fun..But my phone kept ringing and ringing, everytime I got in the pool the phone would ring and it seems liked everyone needed me to help them out right then and there and then the A/C repair guys showed up and so everyone was enjoying the pool and eventually I got around to it.

Today it was back to work, working on appraisal reports  that were due out and once again my daughter was not getting it, she was like “mommy how long are you going to stay down in the office”, I told her probably all day and she just thought it was the end of the world.  I had to research and write reports, do laundry for her trip to grandmas, take a shower, trim the dogs and then drive out of town to meet my mom so she could pick up my daughter for the weekend.

I tell you, I love my mom I don’t know what I would do with out her. She has been getting my daughter for 1 weekend a month every since my daughter was like 6 months old.   So, I say god bless her without her I would never have a day to myself.  My husbands mom barely ever even speaks to us, she lives 20 min away and doesn’t bother to come see her granddaughter or call her but once or twice a year, and my mom live 2 hrs away and we both drive 1hr and meet in the middle every single month, its good for me, its good for Taylor and my mom loves having that weekend with her and Taylor gets to see the rest of the family every months as well. 

I always look forward to this one weekend each month, wether I have plans to go to the cabin on the lake or just sit at home all weekend and do nothing at all, I love being able to have 2 days to myself.  As most women know, even though its not true for all men but most expect the moms to handle all the child rearing and that means, they go on coming and going as they please, never skipping a beat where we have to plan to get them to stop and stay with the kids so we can run to the store or doing something without having to always bring the kids along..It must be nice to not have to be a parent all the time and just pick and choose when you get to do it, because we don’t get that luxury..I am mommy 100% of the time no matter what, I am here if the school calls, if she falls and scrapes her knee, wants a snack, needs her clothes washed, wants to go swimming, needs to take a bath, going to grandmas for the weekend, its me I am always mommy, no one will ever be  able to say I wasn’ t there for my daughter.. Isn’t it amazing how we sometime feel we have to ask our husbands permission to leave the house alone without having to take the kids or convincing our husbands to take the kids with them every so often..I mean my husband never has to ask me to keep Taylor while he goes fishing, golfing, etc..he never has to say to me “why don’t you let her ride with you to go to the store, or where ever I am going.    I know this ins’t true for all dads, because I know some pretty amazing daddy’s out there and so I love to see a man who gets that being a parent doesn’t just mean providing sperm, or bringing home a paycheck to pay bills, being a parent is an all the time, round the clock job, so god bless those men who do get what parenting is really all about.

So, now with all that said I hope to enjoy a peaceful, relaxing weekend and hopefully hang out at the pool with some Strawberry Margaritas and later sit by the firepit..Oh, I can feel the relaxation beginning already !!